Mona on The Go

In his autobiography, Tony Curtis recalled some valuable advice given to him by one of the icons of film Cary Grant.  He told Curtis the best way to make the public want to see more of him was by making sure they didn’t see too much of him. 

Grant was of course relaying a message that many a producer and press agent before him tried to tell certain Hollywood movie stars. Some listened many didn’t. The ones who did not, soon found that a public which had once adored them had now grown tired of seeing them. One too many bad movies and overexposure has ended many a career.

In relationship dating, the same rule applies. Sparks fly in the beginning as you and your date can’t seem to get enough of each other. You spend everyday together including weekends. Multiple phone calls per day that last for hours. Meeting each other on your lunch break and hanging out after work. Let’s not forget the internet where you constantly email and instant message each other.  

And then it’s over. Neither of you can figure out why you suddenly cannot stand the sight of each other. No doubt it can be any number of reasons but if familiarity can breed contempt then overexposure can make you downright hostile. No matter how good things are going, try to keep a few things in mind:

1. Talk To You Later

Unless you are in a space capsule orbiting the earth, you do not have to be in constant contact with mission control also known as your significant other. Calling or emailing once a day is enough (every other day is even better). People need time to digest information they receive and that includes being in a relationship. Contacting someone more than once a day may be cute in the beginning but after awhile it can lead to The Sigh. That’s the one where your significant other takes a deep breath and asks themselves, “Now what do they want?”  

 

2. Days Off

For many couples who are dating this is inconceivable. They feel it is vital to stay in each other’s space so they can get to know each other better. The problem is getting to know each other better can quickly feel like smothering. You can’t make a move without them breathing down your neck and vice versa. At first the two of you chalked it up to love. Time has a way of turning it into resentment.

    

3. Your Own Circle

The mistake many couples make is believing in the myth of one hundred percent compatibility and in the beginning of a dating relationship it may seem like just that. But it does not exist.  There are going to be tastes and interests you have that your dating partner does not share. That’s fine. It leaves the both of you more time to spend in your own social circles. That does not mean that you shouldn’t take an interest in some things your significant other likes. It does mean that you do not have to share everything to have a successful relationship.      

Dating relationships can be very deceptive. The tidal wave of wonderful emotions you both feel can pull you together; yet at the same time it can lead you down the path of breaking up. Enjoy each other’s company but go slow and be sure to give each other plenty of breathing room. Getting too much of a good thing too fast only increases the chances of both of you growing tired of the relationship very quickly

There is no way to completely avoid hot flashes, but turning to a hot flash remedy may help ease the intensity and severity of an attack. It doesn’t matter whether or not a doctor prescribes the hot flash remedy or the treatment is more of a natural alternative. It never hurts to consider some of the methods available to the public when it comes to finding an effective way to relieve hot flashes.

When looking for a worthy hot flash remedy, many people are turning to the healing properties of Chinese medicine. These kinds of remedies would exclude the use of man-made chemicals and drugs. The practice of Chinese medicine has long been used to deliver a very effective hot flash remedy to women. While menopause is viewed as one of the main culprits, there are numerous varieties of hot flashes. For each one, the Chinese have a description and different approach aimed at providing relief in a holistic and healthy way.

If you choose to seek out help from the wisdom of Chinese medicine, you will notice that a Chinese doctor will ask you questions concerning all areas of your health history. A complete physical will also take place. You may notice that special care is taken in analyzing the tongue and your pulse. After this battery of tests and assessments is complete, the doctor will determine the type of menopause you are suffering from. This will also help settle on the best course of action in providing you with a hot flash remedy.

What to Expect

When entering the world of Chinese medicine, you will most likely encounter either acupuncture or an herbal hot flash remedy. Through acupuncture, a doctor will tap into your inner spirit and energy. Many consider this approach extremely effective. When dealing with an herbal hot flash remedy, you may ingest a wide range of herbs that are combined to provide a well-rounded treatment.

Most often, these herbs are consumed in the form of tea. Some of the ingredients a doctor may use include ginseng, red raspberry leaves, evening primrose oil, licorice root, spearmint, chasteberry, black cohosh and wild yams. These Chinese herbs have been highly regarded when it comes to a hot flash remedy and have been used for many centuries.

Whether you have just started or are returning to the dating game, flirting is an essential element of communicating with the opposite sex. Having a few flirting tips in your arsenal will give you clues on how to relax and behave while you’re chatting up a cutie. Learning helpful flirting tips isn’t simply reserved for teenage girls; men and women of all ages could benefit from flirting tips. Whether it is body language or simple conversation, flirting with the object of your affection requires practice and confidence.

There are two key flirting tips to which all successful flirters adhere. The first is always smile. When you smile you look nice and inviting, like someone worth getting to know. Like everything, this is one of those flirting tips that’s best used in moderation; smiling too much for too long will make you look like a drooling psych patient and scare off potential mates. Flash your pearly whites when you make your introduction and keep a light smile throughout the conversation.

The second most important of all flirting tips is eye contact. When you finally get up the nerve to talk to the cutie you’ve been eying all night, look them directly in the eye. Perfect application of this tip should result in you and your crush huddled in the corner getting to know each other. Making and maintaining eye contact throughout your first interaction will make a deep impression on your crush and likely result in you getting their digits.

Other flirting tips you might find helpful:

? Keep the conversation light and casual; discussing children in third world nations or religion should be reserved for at least the third date.

? Be real and don’t dish out cheesy pick up lines or phony stories.

? Keep your relationship history to a minimum; no need to reveal the cause or causes of your previous break ups.

? Be funny and make her or him laugh. This will ease tension and allow you to open up quicker.

? Make physical contact but keep it G-rated. A light pat or squeeze of the arm or a pat on the shoulder will suffice. Covering your hand with theirs is also permitted for emphasis in a story.

? If you’re at a bar or restaurant, offer to buy a drink. This move works on both sexes so ladies get out your wallets!

? Tease them a bit. Give them something to wonder a bit about. Don’t give out all of your secrets all at once and make them want to know you better.

? Be bold; after executing all of these flirting tips flawlessly, it would be a shame not to ask for the phone number.

Remember these flirting tips the next time you spot someone you might be interested in or before you get up the nerve to talk to the object of your affection. Remember practice makes perfect, so don’t be afraid to try and if it doesn’t work out, just keep trying!